Jump, Scooby, Jump!
She’s four. She’s been on a horse for about four hours in her life. She knew what he could do. She knew what she wanted to do. She spoke clearly and told him so.
Scooby, who loves jumping, ignored her.
Her voice became more insistent until the words were a plaintive plea: “Jump, Scooby,
Scooby walked on, unperturbed.
Finally, frustration flooding and tears spilling, she cried out, “Why doesn’t he listen to me?”
Kendal spoke the words every child of God has cried at some point or other. We know what God can do. We know what we want and we ask clearly, repeatedly…and nothing changes. Hearts broken, frustration overflowing, we lash out at being ignored.
Like Kendal, we fail to realize God won’t do what we are not ready for. It is not that He disagrees with our request; He just knows the time is not right. God recognizes our weaknesses even when we don’t. He feels that our faith muscles need strengthening to keep us balanced in the grand actions we request.
God never withholds what is best and He never gives what will harm.
Next time your heart cries out, remember Kendal and whisper a thank you!
The beautiful depths of life require connection with others. God created humanity for relationship. Much of our culture today draws us away from deep connection with others–but the longing never leaves us. It is the design God wove into humanity.
Part of the plans for Heartsong Ministry include using horses (and other animals, in time) to teach relationship principles. The ABCs of Relationships is the beginning of those curriculum plans.
As you read, consider posting comments or questions. Have you seen these principles in your own relationships? Are there other key components to healthy, thriving connections you feel need to be included?
Attentive – tune into your thoughts, feelings and desires. Consider same for ‘other.’
Ask – what do you want? Is it ‘good’ for both? How will you communicate the ask?
How can you create a safe space that allows ignoring, resisting or cooperating?
Accept – limitations, weaknesses and differences of opinion.
Bear with each other – no one, no relationship is perfect; create your unique relationship by working through your unique challenges
Bond – working through problems creates that special bond; the more things you go through, the stronger the bond
Blessed—humanity was created by love, in love, to love; the work of relationship brings great blessing.
Committed—The blessing of the bond develops deeper desires and more opportunities. Every layer of depth in a relationship demands more sacrifice and surrender.
Connected—Paul said he was constrained by the love of God…the deepening bonds of relationship ‘constrain’ us to love more, give more. Getting what we want or simply going along is never goal.
Creating—God created humanity for connection. Relationships develop to give life and create more connection. We see more possibilities and the process of connecting is endless…always new ways, new depths.
For more on how horses can help us learn relationship skills, pop on over to Building Relationships or contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
The biggest step in writing your story is the first one! Simply getting started will set the wheels in motion. A simple genealogy chart will help you begin to think about family. Many free printable charts exist on the web; this is a charming one that will get your thoughts rolling.
Then let’s start with some simple questions to get the ink flowing.
- What town(s) did you grow up in? Were you born there?
- Did you have one family home or many?
- What was the atmosphere at home? Were both parents in the home? Was there a sweet spirit or a lot of bickering?
- How about your siblings? Did you get along? Did you share a bedroom…hobbies…chores?
- Speaking of chores, what kind of responsibilities did you have as a child?
- Were there family gatherings, traditions or celebrations that remain strong in your mind?
- Did your grandparents have much influence in your home?
Writing is a process that can easily bog you down. For now, simply begin jotting stories. Do not worry about a ‘publishable’ piece…simply put in writing the memories that are part of who you are as an adult.
WARNING: Not every memory will be a sweet one. There is no need to sugar-coat the past, but the past need not influence the present either. If you find memories swamping you with negative feelings, set that aside for a time. You may want to address those areas in another way so the negative influences of the past are ‘cut off.’ Should such a challenge come your way, the Legacy Builder: Healing the Past article may be of help.
If you would like to dig further into your story, Joy in the Journey
may be the book for you!