The beautiful depths of life require connection with others. God created humanity for relationship. Much of our culture today draws us away from deep connection with others–but the longing never leaves us. It is the design God wove into humanity.
Part of the plans for Heartsong Ministry include using horses (and other animals, in time) to teach relationship principles. The ABCs of Relationships is the beginning of those curriculum plans.
As you read, consider posting comments or questions. Have you seen these principles in your own relationships? Are there other key components to healthy, thriving connections you feel need to be included?
Attentive – tune into your thoughts, feelings and desires. Consider same for ‘other.’
Ask – what do you want? Is it ‘good’ for both? How will you communicate the ask?
How can you create a safe space that allows ignoring, resisting or cooperating?
Accept – limitations, weaknesses and differences of opinion.
Bear with each other – no one, no relationship is perfect; create your unique relationship by working through your unique challenges
Bond – working through problems creates that special bond; the more things you go through, the stronger the bond
Blessed—humanity was created by love, in love, to love; the work of relationship brings great blessing.
Committed—The blessing of the bond develops deeper desires and more opportunities. Every layer of depth in a relationship demands more sacrifice and surrender.
Connected—Paul said he was constrained by the love of God…the deepening bonds of relationship ‘constrain’ us to love more, give more. Getting what we want or simply going along is never goal.
Creating—God created humanity for connection. Relationships develop to give life and create more connection. We see more possibilities and the process of connecting is endless…always new ways, new depths.
Each ‘letter’ offers one or more AART opportunities. Awareness is the starting place. In most every relationship, we enter in consumed with self–even when we think we are thinking of the other. In reality, our thoughts are really on how we feel about the other–not on their best interests. In an AART session, participants practice the art of relationship with the horse to gain insights into personal realtionships.
For more on how horses can help us learn relationship skills, pop on over to Building Relationships or contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Published by Billie Jo
I am a thankful, awed child of God and wife to Craig, mom to Rusty and Riesa. My passion is helping others enjoy the presence of God.
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