Spring-time brings out the hidden gardener in most everyone. The tender green buds on trees and the first flowers make our hearts sing–and anticipate the joys of summer. The visions–and memories–of long summer evenings, splashing water and fun with friends. There is a longing in our heart for simple connection with others.
Spring reminds us of summer’s possibilities. God made our hearts to long for what is right and good. Connection with others is one of those good things that often goes wrong. God created humanity because He craved relationship. The challenge is that in this fallen world most everything conspires against honest, loving relationship.
With Christ, the challenges of relationships become spring-time possibilities! Improving our relationships with others propels us deeper into relationship with the Father.
We love because He first loved us.
Trying to do relationship without the love of God creates sickly, broken connections. A relationship can only be as healthy as the sickest person in it. We can’t bring health to others; that is an individual choice. But we can show the way.
The only way to a healthy life with healthy relationships is tending the Garden of our own souls…and thereby making disciples of others as we go!
In Genesis 2:15, we see God’s plan for humanity: tilling and protecting the garden. Partnering that with Jesus’ teachings in Luke 8:4-15 instructs me in pursuing healthy relationships.
The parable of the sower in Luke is used typically in a salvation context. Considering it as transformational truth helps us fulfill our purpose of caring for the world God has placed each of us within. God has placed each of us in a unique garden, with individuals He loves and longs to have in relationship with Himself.
Christ, the Sower, came into the world to seek and save the lost—and destroy the work of the devil. He tells us, “So send I you.” As the Sower, Christ said some seed falls on hard, dry ground; some falls on rocky places, some on weeds and others on good soil. In the parable, the Word was heard in every case. The results varied.
As the keeper of my heart, the gardener of my soul, I must ask myself:
- Where am I hard and dry?
- Are there rocks – hurts or sins blocking my fruit?
- What weeds of treasure, pleasure and worry are crowding out the Word?
The people in my life will reveal the answers to every one of those questions.
Look around at the people God places in your path. Listen to the reactions of your heart to the folks you want to love—and be loved by.
Where do you feel hardness? Is it in response to a mother’s words that feel like criticism or perhaps a spouse’s disregard for you? Will you let the shield of Jesus absorb the hurt and His love flow from the wound? Or will you give place to the enemy and respond in the same spirit of unkindness that wounded you?
What rocks become visible? Are you throwing stones or feeling the blows of accusation? There is now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus. Unconditional love is the beautiful, unique attribute of Jesus Christ. He alone can heal hurts. Relationship with Him will align those who walk contrary to the Law. Feel His love, show His love and watch how He connects hearts.
And then there are those weeds…those things we love that are so much lesser than Him. People get in the way of getting what we want and relationships die. Sometimes the weeds show up as good things we desperately desire—and will do whatever we must to have them. They drag us from His presence. Sometimes they appear as problems we cannot solve…but we kill ourselves with worry trying to do the impossible.
Relationships are God’s idea because they partner with Him to transform us into the likeness of Christ! Embrace the spring-time possibilities.
Are there ways we can pray with you for His glory
to be seen in your life this year?
Dear Billie Jo – great insight on the parable of the soils. I find that the difficult relationships teach me the most. Unconditional love is what we should strive for, and forgiveness of those who hurt us or treat us unjustly. Thank you for a very insightful post. I’m certainly challenged by this!
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So agree with you! I think the difficult ones are the biggest blessing in the long run. Folks who pat us on the back don’t do much to help us rise to our potential. You always challenge me, blessed to return the favor :). Love you, sister!
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