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NO MORE BULLIES!

Bullying is an increasing problem, but it isn’t a new problem nor is it confined to schools.   Social-media bullying is rampant; actually every area of life is vulnerable to the phenomenon of bullying. Businesses bully, politicians bully, police bully, minorities bully, families bully–and sadly, even Christians bully.

Bullying isn’t always violent, but it is always an attempt to control.  It manipulates, pressures, shames and intimidates.  It’s a learned behavior that destroys lives as it proclaims, “It’s all about ME!”

  • Bullies want their own way more they want anything else.
  • Bullies are bossy.
  • Bullies demand their own way when they want it & how they want it.

Bullies act as if they are God.

But the truth is GOD IS NEVER a bully and yet His way is the only way.

As Christians, we have the answer to ending bullying, and we need to work at it!  We can stop bullying…and the creation of bullies…by living as a child of the Most High God and helping others learn to do the same.

A World of Bullies

Self-centeredness and resentments are root causes of bullying in our world.  Selfishness and unhealed, open wounds create bullies…and victims.  Unforgiveness is poison to yourself and the world around you!

The answer for both self-centeredness and resentments is the same:  

Jesus, the Healer….Jesus, the reconciler.

Bullying is not solved by becoming a bigger bully.

Bullying stops when we refuse to bully–and when we refuse to be bullied–the same WAY Jesus responded.  Instead of taking offenses to heart and holding on to them, we must know who God is and who He created us (ourselves & our offenders) to be.

Victors not Victims

Knowing God as the Bible reveals Him to be gives us victorious courage.  We can walk through life secure in His care.  That does not mean we will never have trials.  Learning to trust God enough to die to self is a daily (moment-by-moment) necessity.

Jesus is the Way…and if we look at His life, we see His earthly life ended by bullies.  In America, that is not a common danger–though it is in some places and sometimes is true here.  Jim Elliott, who gave His life that others would have life, speaks eloquently to that concern:

Image result for he is no fool who gives up that which he cannot keep

Finally, the cure to bullying is in knowing the value of every life.  The King of Kings died on the cross for individuals–not the masses.  He died not as a martyr but as a sacrifice with great purpose:  destroy the works of the devil and re-open the Way to relationship with the Father in heaven.  He gave His life that we would be able to live in union with God and others.  Our lives flow with that power and purpose when He lives in us.

Victors over Bullying

  • Victors want God’s way more they want anything else.
  • Victors are humble and meek.
  • Victors respect people’s right to choose.
  • Victors bow before their God and enjoy His presence.

WE WANT TO HELP YOU, HELP CHILDREN BECOME VICTORS OVER BULLYING WITH – NO MORE BULLIES!

God NEVER bullies. He is humble, generous and good.  His Way is the way to end bullying!  Jesus is that Way! This brief powerpoint helps you discuss these deep truths with children.  Let’s be part of building the solution.

No More Bullies – Powerpoint Presentation

12 minute slide presentation to be used to discuss bullying from a Christian viewpoint. Includes narration, notes and suggestions for supplemental activities. Purchasers are welcome to shut off the narration and lead the discussion more interactively if they are comfortable doing so.

$1.99

 

Finding the Answer to Bullying

Nearly 80% of school age children say they feel the piercing pain of being bullied.  Surprisingly 20% of children admit they are bullies.  The answer for both bullies and the bullied is the same: learning the value of each individual.  Christians are uniquely qualified to present this message. 

Believing every person is created in the image of God sets the stage for valuing all.  Jesus first instructed his followers to love others as they loved themselves.  Later, He increased the challenge and said, “Love others as I have loved you.” Bullies don’t change the Word.  We often need help figuring out how to make a difference.  A surprising animal can help us explore the answer to bullying.

“Just ask the animals, and they will teach you….”  Job 12:7a

Heartsong Aldean

That’s right:   bunnies.  The good intentions and good goals of bunnies go awry when they do not get what they want.  They are a perfect pet partner to help children understand–and fight bullying God’s way. 

Pet-Assisted Learning (P.A.L.) sessions are a creative way to reach the children in your care. 

P.A.L. – Bunnies & Bullies 

It’s All About Me

Finding the Right Way

Feeling the pain

Living Loved

Listening to God

Getting Help

Classroom presentations include a visiting bunny and a coloring page for children.  

Prayer Tools

The last few weeks have offered numerous opportunities to share information on developing a prayer habit–especially through the use of a prayer journal.  One of the tools that helped me prayer fervently and effectively was ‘perpetual lists.’  The link below provides a document with three of those key lists:

31 Days of Prayer focused on Christian Character

31 Days of Prayer for our leaders

31 Days of Prayer based on God’s purposes for the Church

For more information on deepening your prayer-life, the Fit Faith Prayer Workshop PDF may be of use–or contact me to schedule a workshop for your group.

Family – training for relationship

God created us for relationship–and family is intended to be the safe place for learning and practicing relationship skills.  We become our very best…and relate our very best to others…when we know who we are designed to be and how to live fully in Christ!

What we learn only in our heads can be difficult to put into practice.  A.A.R.T. (animal-assisted relationship training) helps weave knowledge from head to heart to heels!

 

Riddles, unknown objects, observations, errors & blindfolded walking brought truths of our identity in Christ into the light.  AART isn’t a magical solution to building family relationships.  It is a tool to help each person grow more into the likeness of Christ and share more of the glory of God in their interactions with others.

Check out the ways Heartsong helps bring the wisdom of the word to individual walks.

Bunnies are Bullies

BULLYING

Current statistics indicate half of school-age children report having been bullied in the past month.  A strong link exists between bullying and suicide–the leading cause of death for young people.

Bullying is an increasing problem, but it isn’t a new problem nor is it confined to schools.  Businesses bully, politicians bully, police bully, minorities bully, families bully–and sadly, even Christians bully.

Bullying isn’t always violent, but it is always an attempt to control.  It manipulates, pressures, shames and intimidates.  It’s a learned behavior that destroys lives as it proclaims, “It’s all about ME!”

  • Bullies want their own way more they want anything else.
  • Bullies are bossy.
  • Bullies demand their own way when they want it & how they want it.
  • Bullies set themselves up as god.

We can stop bullying…and the creation of bullies…by living as a child of the Most High God!  God NEVER bullies, though the sad truth is many think God is a bully.  He is humble, generous and good.  His Way is the way to end bullying!  Jesus is that Way!

Of course, knowing the answer is way easier than living the answer!

Let the animals teach…
Heartsong Bunnies and Bullies

Bullying is a natural trait of….wait for it…BUNNIES!

I saw that roll of the eyes.  Stay with me.

Yes, bunnies are a prey animal. In nature, they are often on the receiving end of much more than bully-ing.  By nature, though, within their social structure, bullying is a way of life.

BIG Bunny

Bunny hierarchy is pretty interesting but visit this link if bunny details are your primary interest because this will just be a fly (well, hop) over.  While every colony (or warren) will have a Chief BIG BUNNY (BB), there are many BBs  in the bunny world. Every BB expects–demands–to be worshiped and obeyed by every other bunny.  The message from every BB (Big Bunny or Big Bully) is the same:  “This life–including your life–is all about me.”

Good Goals Gone Wrong

Even good goals get lost with a self-centered approach.  Respect & affection are the foundational values of bunny life.  Every demand a bunny makes is for one of those purposes.

Good goals pursued the wrong way stop being good.

Disobedience to bunny social rules is read as disrespect–and receives a punishment.  There are a lot of ways to offend a bunny.  Hopping by without speaking, attention to another bunny or being too familiar can generate a foot flick, an angry look, a growl, bite or complete shunning.  Taking offense is a bunny characteristic…it’s a bully characteristic too.

War in the Warren

Bunny bullying is pretty tame when they live in the wild.  But a bunny stuck with humans who don’t speak bunny can get pretty aggressive.  We humans are prone to disobeying bunny rules and creating resentments.   Bunnies hold a grudge, and just like with people, grudges create walls of separation.  Bully bunnies become so damaged, they do not want a relationship with people.  Sometimes, fear, anger or pride take over every other desire and their innate sociability is destroyed.  It is a sad state for the bunny-and its human family.

Does the Bullying problem in our world make more sense?

A World of Bullies

Self-centeredness and resentments are the commonality in warrens–and in our world.  Selfishness and unhealed, open wounds create bullies…and victims.  Unforgiveness is poison to yourself and the world around you!

The answer for both self-centeredness and resentments is the same:  

Jesus, the Healer….Jesus, the reconciler.

Like bunnies, we people are created to be social.  God so longed for relationship He created humanity.  But God humbly loves…He gave humanity the freedom to choose to love Him or not.  It is a fearsome choice with serious consequences.  While God is generous and good, He is also holy.  We are accountable for our choices.  Every choice is a choice of LIFE or DEATH.  Our choices are actions that produce one or the other.

Sadly, sometimes in our lives, greed, fear, anger and pride push God aside and we take matters in our own hands.  We choose our way instead of The Way.  We choose death.

Bullying is not solved by becoming a bigger bully.

Bullying stops when we refuse to bully–and when we refuse to be bullied–the same WAY Jesus responded.  Instead of taking offenses to heart and holding on to them, we must know who God is and who He created us (ourselves & our offenders) to be.

Victors not Victims

Knowing God as the Bible reveals Him to be gives us victorious courage.  We can walk through life secure in His care.  That does not mean we will never have trials.  Learning to trust God enough to die to self is a daily (moment-by-moment) necessity.

Jesus is the Way…and if we look at His life, we see His earthly life ended by bullies.  In America, that is not a common danger–though it is in some places and sometimes is true here.  Jim Elliott, who gave His life that others would have life, speaks eloquently to that concern:

Image result for he is no fool who gives up that which he cannot keep

Finally, the cure to bullying is in knowing the value of every life.  The King of Kings died on the cross for individuals–not the masses.  He died not as a martyr but as a sacrifice with great purpose:  destroy the works of the devil and re-open the Way to relationship with the Father in heaven.  He gave His life that we would be able to live in union with God and others.  Our lives flow with that power and purpose when He lives in us.

Victors over Bullying

  • Victors want God’s way more they want anything else.
  • Victors are humble and meek.
  • Victors respect people’s right to choose.
  • Victors bow before their God and enjoy His presence.

What things tempt you to bully?

What ways are you bullied by others?

Will you choose The Way?

 

CLICK here for more info or to schedule a Heartsong visit.

 

 

 

 

Heartsong AART

Birthing a new program feels like extended labor.  My gratitude to those who labor with me and listen as I seek to articulate the vision of my heart.  I wanted to share part of the labor with you for feedback, prayers and interest.  We have a new booklet, A.A.R.T., Animal Assisted Relationship Training, which outlines the sessions currently in development to aid in discipleship.

This piece of Heartsong will grow with other animals but the heart remains the same:  to see Christians LIVE out the calling God has placed within them.  Another popular activity is a children’s workshop, “Buddies or Bullies” that utilizes the characteristics of bunnies to point out bullying tactics.

 

Here is a sample of what A.A.R.T. will provide:

ABCS of Safety, Security & Significance: In the Garden of Eden, the choice to reject God’s one command cut humanity off from the Need Meeter. When we seek to meet the needs that God built into us…instead of seeking Him…we sin & become captive to that sin. Restoring connecting to the Father begins the process of healing…and fulfillment…and loving ourselves. From childhood to senior citizen, we must find how Christ is the answer we seek and understand how to apply that answer to diverse situations.

Acceptance by God restores IDENTITY for individuals; it provides strength for life in a changing world. When roles or actions give a person identity, they never learn the unique design God gave them. “Who am I” is a necessary question because the answer gives stability. AART activities help us see through our facades. Scriptures focused on identity in Christ & being treasured by God. (Psalm 139:13-14)

Belonging to God restores boundaries that provide safety and security. In the natural world, safety is an increasing concern from childhood to old age. Involvement with animals requires learning to be observant of body language and danger zones. It is easy to appreciate the value of fences, reins and lead ropes. Extending those truths to the internet, to strangers with candy or puppies and to individual choices is the goal of the coach in the follow up. (Psalm 46:1)

Calling of God restores purpose to lives. The Word tells us God has created us for good works…and for connection to Him. He treasures His children and cares for them. Using the natural needs of animals (nutrition, coat & hoof care, exercise), coaches draw parallels to caring for the body as the temple of God and caring for others. (Eph 2:10)

Joy in the Journey – Workshop

JOY IN THE JOURNEY – An Intro to Journaling & Learning to See the God’s Fingerprints Every Day

The Christian life is to be one of growth toward maturity.  Accepting Christ as Savior is the doorway to learning what His Lordship looks like.  Our journey through life is designed to help us know God more fully, more personally.  Often, we are so busy ‘living’ life that we fail to see the realities of life.  The information in this booklet helps you focus on God in the details of your day.  Several who have used it have shared new insights they received of God and His work in their lives.  Those reports give me joy…and I believe you will have the same results!

Joy in the JourneyJoy in the Journey Back

Joy in the Journey Workshops

A jam-packed 1.5 hour overview or a four-session study that allows more in-depth communication.

You will take away tools to use in seeing, enjoying and sharing God.

Becoming Aware of the Presence of God
Working Out the Principles of Faith (instead of Ivory Tower Faith)
God is Now Here or Nowhere
Power of Emotions & Forgiveness
Life Seasons & Using the Past to Create Vision for the Future
Receiving the Work of God

Contact me:  Billiejoyoumans@heartsongministry.net

Fit Faith Workshops and other topics available on request.  All workshops are provided without a fee.  Heartsong Ministries is a registered non-profit holding a 501(c)3.  All donations are tax deductible.

Fit Faith Workshops

God created us for Himself–and each other.  Learning together is a great way to build relationships and grow in grace & knowledge.   Heartsong Ministries offers a series of workshops called FIT FAITH which target the key components of a healthy faith-walk.

FIT FAITH:  FIT FAITH – Fasting Workshop

Fasting is a beautiful discipline with multiple blessings.  It is also often misunderstood and even feared.  This workshop demystifies the discipline and encourages people to press into the presence of God.

FIT FAITH: Learning to Love the Living Word

This workshop aims at building the Bible skills of believers.  The WORD is a necessity for a strong, vibrant walk.  Tools and tips for growing to love Bible time are offered in this Teaching Talk.

FIT FAITH:  HIS- Hands in Service

Christ came to serve and Scripture reveals that God has prepared good works for each of us to do.  Yet many struggle to find their place of service–or they find themselves inundated with requests to do that leave them empty.  Serving is a beautiful opportunity to grow in our faith-walk.  This Teaching Talk offers insights and help to those wanting to grow through service.

FIT FAITH:  FIT FAITH – Prayer Workshop

Prayer sometimes falls into a rut.  The beautiful privilege of entering the presence of God is lost to a ‘to do’ list–or becomes part of the list.  It doesn’t have to be that way.  Prayer is dialog…real communication.  This is a practical workshop that addresses common prayer traps and creative communication aids.

Contact Heartsong to schedule a workshop:  Billiejoyoumans@heartsongministry.net